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The Holidays After a Loss

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There is no right or wrong way to commemorate holidays after a death, it’s as unique and personal as each relationship.  But creating new traditions can help families look forward to the years ahead rather than try to re-create a past that will forever be missing an important person.

How to cope without losing the opportunity to gather with friends and family? For a newly single older adult, it may be time to share the responsibilities for preparing a large meal by assigning everyone attending a dish or beverage they can bring.  And if carving the turkey at the table brings to mind a lost loved one and is too emotional, consider setting up a buffet in the kitchen where people can serve themselves before sitting down to eat.  Thinking ahead to what activities can help entertain younger family members is also helpful to keep things running smoothly as well as a great diversion, especially if the weather doesn’t cooperate.

The first year after a loss can often be the most challenging but it’s important to stay connected with family and friends even if the celebration is shortened or less elaborate than in the past.  Allowing yourself to process grief is part of accepting and moving through a loss.  We don’t ever forget the people close to us that we lose and sometimes even years later, these gatherings can call up deep feelings that may catch us off guard.  Being surrounded by a supportive and loving family or group of friends helps.

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